The Wellness world wants you to do it. Find yourself, that is. But what exactly does that mean?
Globetrotting to all corners of the earth? Immersing yourself in a Kabutz for 6 months? Maybe it is living amongst monks and meditating daily… for a year… surely that would do it?
What exactly happens when you ‘find yourself’? Is there a definitive moment where you shout from the mountaintops, “I have found myself!” and just like that, life becomes irrevocably calm?
I think not.
Finding yourself is about reconnecting with yourself and others and it can be as extravagant or as simple as you make it. Who has time for that though - in all honesty, we have commitments to family, work, social life, hobbies… and that never ending to-do list.
So where do we start? Well, let’s start at the extravagant!
There are a plethora of Wellness retreats to choose from: 7-day luxury European spa experiences, 5-day mind & meditation getaways in the Blue Mountains or what about a 10-day yoga retreat in Thailand with all the massages, organic food and herbal teas you could dream of? These types of retreats are definitely worth the effort - a self imposed ‘stop’ where you can mindfully engage in activities that nurture and nourish the soul. When we stop and find quiet, the nervous system slows down and we begin to feel a sense of clarity. It is in this moment that you are able to reconnect within.
But what happens when we arrive home, I hear you ask. How do I ‘reconnect’ when I don’t have time or money to book one of those luxury retreats?
Reconnecting with yourself in the ‘real world’ can be achieved by making the conscious effort to enforce still. Remind yourself that it is ok to stop and enjoy your cup of tea until it is finished. Stop. Mindfully hold onto your cup of tea until it is finished. This sounds ridiculously simple, but all too often we rush off to the next task. The cup of tea can act as a metaphor for anything: stop and smell the roses, sign up to a yoga class, or take your friend out for lunch.
If you take the time to schedule moments of still, you will be surprised what you will find. You might actually get a chance to reconnect and maybe, just maybe, you might even find a little bit of you.